Describe Barriers To Effective Interpersonal Interactions (Essay Sample)

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Dear Sara and Tim,
finding love is not so simple, but it is only half the battle. It is important to maintain feelings and overcome difficulties to keep a relationship in harmony. There are no hopeless situations even when it comes to the personal life. It is wonderful when loved a couple is ready to support each other in all situations while making everything to save the family. The willingness to assist in personal development is an extremely important factor in the integrity of the relationship. However, it is important to remember that readiness to save the family is not enough for a happy relationship. It is also important to understand how to do it.
During your life you will probably face the barriers to effective interpersonal interactions. Perception of information is closely connected with communication barriers: barriers of perception, semantic barriers, non-verbal barriers, barriers arising from inattentive listening, barriers arising from lack of feedback. In communication difficulties, an important place belongs to the psychological barrier. Its causes may be both understandable (hostility, antipathy), and unexplained ("do not like it"). These sources of interference and communication difficulties i are present in close interpersonal communication. Thus, communication barriers are the factors that cause or contribute to ineffective discourse and conflict (Knapp & Vangelisti, 2008, p. 130). They may have absolutely different reasons, but the result can be predicted in advance: the lack of understanding and contact. Psychological distance between partners increases, they do not understand each other or understand each other inaccurately; communication becomes remote and less confident. In other words, the effects of the communication gap can be expressed as follows:
• Increased psychological distance between people - the participants of the communication process;
• Erosion of mutual trust;
• Change in the nature of interaction in the process of communication;
• Gradual alienation and, as a result, the complete destruction of communication links.
A man combines biological and social. The basis of human character is the type of temperament given to people from birth, which in turn depends on the type of their nervous system. Having got acquainted with various aspects of human character, it becomes clear why it is sometimes difficult to establish contact and harmonious interaction with another person. It should be noted that there are no "bad" and "good" types of temperament. Each type has its own advantages and disadvantages. Conflicts arise when people with totally opposite types of temperaments face each other. Clash of people with different types of temperament can generate certain barriers to understanding often leading to a conflicting outcome.
As a rule, people underestimate the value of negative emotions in life. Many consider that the logic is the basis of human thinking and human being. However, emotions accompany almost every aspect of human life, which is the fact that has been proven by scientists. Emotions help a person understand the importance of what he/she is doing and how important his/her relationships with other people are. Negative emotions occur in situations when:
• Something significant for the person happens;
• One realizes that there is some danger but cannot avoid it;
• In case of aggravation of needs;
• In the conflict;
• In case of the occurrence of events, which have not been scheduled;
• In situations with a high degree of uncertainty.
Emotions can be a barrier in communicating with the other person, especially if it is a stable negative emotion (grief, pain, disgust, contempt, fear, etc.).
In addition, barriers of internal installations can occur. Installation is a favorable or unfavorable evaluation reaction to something or someone, which is expressed in opinions, feelings, and goal-directed behavior. Once formed, the installation tends over time to become a stronger because people, first of all, accept the events, the content of which is consistent with the attitudes learned earlier.
Along with that, there is a barrier stereotype. The stereotype is a simplified pre-accepted view; it does not follow from own experience. This concept in a certain way affects the perception and understanding of the phenomena of reality.
The barrier of lack of interest can be harmful for a relationship. Sometimes, in the process of communication, which a person does not find particularly interesting, he/she ceases to attach importance to what he/she is told. The person’s attention is scattered, and he/she ceases to follow the trend of thought of the interlocutor.
Thus, Sara and Tim, in order for communication I can advise you to be more productive, it is advisable to adhere to the following five rules of effective communication:
1. When communicating with another person, try to tune in the “ wave” of the talker to catch his or her emotional state.
2. Do not judge the identity of the partner and try to accept the person as he/she is.
3. Be aware that the partner may adhere to a different opinion, which does not make the person wrong.
4. Use direct communication to solve common problems. In a conversation, the opponent is the matter of discussion but not the interlocutor.
5. Show feelings to the partner and do not be afraid to talk about what you want.
Another important factor which can influence your relationship is self-concept. You should maintain it on the appropriate level. Formation of self-concept is a permanent process that begins in early childhood. Factors that influence the formation of self-esteem include thoughts and patterns of perception, reaction of other people, experience in school as well as in the courtyard and in the company of peers, illness, disability or injury, culture, religion, the role and status in society, etc (Wilmot & Hocker, 2010, p. 14). Relationships with loved ones are particularly important for the formation of self-esteem. Many of person’s current beliefs and stereotypes reflect the experience that he or she was getting from interacting with other people for a long time. If the relationships in the family were friendly, strong and based on mutual understanding, one has all the chances to generate adequate and healthy self-esteem. If over time, the communication with close people was accompanied by criticism, humiliation, and insults, it is likely that low self-esteem will be formed.
Nevertheless, Sara and Tim, own thoughts have the greatest impact on self-esteem. A person has the power to change completely and create these thoughts. If one tends to focus on own weaknesses or deficiencies, he or she needs to learn a new way to formulate thoughts and focus on his/her positive qualities. There are two main criteria of formation and maintaining of self-concept:
• comparison of desires and real achievements;
• comparison of own achievements with the achievements of others (Wilmot & Hocker, 2010, p. 33).
When a person evaluates him- or herself properly, it gives a sense of inner stability. The person feels confident and thus becomes able to build positive relationships with the partner.
Dear Sara and Tim, also I want to emphasis the necessity of developed emotional intelligence for your relationships. Emotional intelligence is a person's ability to recognize emotions, understand the intentions, motivations and desires of others, as well as the ability to manage own emotions and the emotions of other people in order to solve practical problems (Richards, 2015, p. 12). Emotional intelligence determines how people handle themselves and their relationships. Emotional intelligence provides an ability to use the information for the realization of goals. There are four main components of EQ: self-consciousness, self-control, empathy, relationship skills (Richards, 2015, p. 13).
Conventionally, emotional intelligence can be measured by three levels:
1) low emotional intelligence;
2) advanced emotional intelligence;
3) the highest emotional intelligence (Richards, 2015, p. 13).
The development of emotional intelligence is the development of self-awareness, skills, awareness of own and others’ emotions, the ability to manage own and others' emotions and to interact effectively with people. The first step in the development of EQ is the formation of the ability to recognize and evaluate emotions and their intensity with a particular point of view. Then, one needs to learn to identify the source of the emotion and intensity of the emotion. The next step is an expansion of the range of emotions. One should try to understand and realize what happens when he or she is doing this or that thing.
Indeed, many relationships break due to understatement and misunderstanding. Thus, the sense of emotional intelligence is to build a constructive relationship. The high level of EQ is almost a guarantee of success in private life and relationships. Indeed, many relationships break from understatement and misunderstanding. Thus, the sense of emotional intelligence is to build a constructive relationship
I am sure now you are close and loving people. Close relationship are impossible without self-disclosure. Self-disclosure is a conscious and voluntary opening of individuality, its subjective states, secrets, and intentions. It is one of the basic psychological needs of every individual. There is a definite link between the breadth and depth (intimacy) of self-disclosure and the type of relationship (Petronio, 2002, p. 80). Self-disclosure is an important aspect of personal relationships, which determines the effectiveness of communication a...