Emotional Intelligence (Essay Sample)

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Emotional intelligence is something in each one of us that determines how we manage our behaviors, relate with people and make decisions. Personal competence focuses more on the individual rather than the relation with others. Social competence on the other hand focuses much on your relationship with others and your social awareness. The competence that I think I am most weak at is communication and conflict management. Communication is being able to listen attentively and fostering an open dialogue. Conflict management goes hand in hand with communication and just as the name suggests it is the act of negotiating and solving the disagreements that frequently arise. Communicating and solving conflicts can greatly improve my performance at school and in my career as well. Conflicts are always bound to happen everywhere and can have devastating effects on the parties involved if not solved or handled in the right manner (Merton 56). So many relationships have been ruined by simple disagreements which would have otherwise been taken care of in a simple way. Communication is the best way of solving these problems. Talking things out is the most basic way of solving conflicts in all settings, whether at school or at work. Communication lets you express yourself to others and in the process gain the information that you needed. At school for example, communicating with your fellow students can assist you in learning a lot especially from you’re the teachers. You might be having a personal problem that might be affecting your performance at school and you find it hard to concentrate.
Talking to someone will assist in letting out the pressure and stress. Once you talk to someone, you will feel good and resume back to normal. Your performance will also resume and you will be able to achieve more. This can also happen at the work place and lower your performance at work. Communication is the way out. There are a number of things that I can do to improve on my communication and conflict management skills. One is to ensure that I am free with the people I am around whether at school or at work. Know the kind of people they are and know the ones you can trust with your problems. The other thing to do is to create a good relationship with people. I will also ensure that I always have a listening ear. I will learn to listen to other people and not judge them. Communication is a two way thing. I have to listen to people too...