Why Young People Live Separately From Their Parents (Article Sample)

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5/2/2017
Why Young People from ages 18-25 should live separately from their parents.
At one point or another in life, everybody lives under the care of a parent, if not, then under the care of someone that cares for them (a guardian). Even the street urchins have somewhere they call home whether it's under a bridge or behind an abandoned building and in that place, they have someone who tells them what to do and what not to do. As people become of age, they begin to feel awkward being under the same roof with their parents and guardians for various reasons. These reasons include: They feel they are of age and are able to take care of themselves, they feel they need much more privacy, they feel they require to learn more about living in a world with a diverse community and not being confined in the same environment for life.
In many countries around the globe, the majority age/ the age one requires to be identified as an adult is 18 years old. Once a child hits 18 years old and above, they begin to feel of age and people who are able to make right decisions and solve issues here and there. It is this age that most people are already staying on campus away from their parents (in the campus dorms/ hostels) or others even hire apartments as a group of three or five students (Michael, Helfand). They begin to interact with one another and to converse about various issues affecting their lives as teens (Stephanie, Postles). They make discoveries about what they want and who they really are. As a result of this, when the semester closes, they would feel so awkward or out of place going back to their parent’s house and staying with them since they would feel that they are in a so much controlled environment. An environment where they cannot be able to explore who they are and make decisions concerning various aspects of their academic, professional, social, spiritual and economic life.
To begin with, youth between the age of 18 and 25 should stay from their parents because, by law, they are adults. Even though there is no legal injunction put upon on teens between that age that they should stay away from their parents, nature would automatically spew them out of their parent's house in one way or another (Stephanie, Postles). Some parents are very protective of their children, and they are so reluctant to let their children stay away from them because they feel that they would misbehave and be irresponsible once they are out of their (parents) sight (Oprah, Winfrey). Being protective about the teens is good. However, they should also be given a chance to grow on their own and to learn from their mistakes because watching them like they will never grow up and be responsible will only make them irresponsible. On the other hand, the children, after acquiring this age, would want to live alone and a number of parents permit them to. This is a good move and decision from both ends because the child would learn the art of being responsible enough to take care of him/herself while the parent would be able to judge if he/she raised their child well enough to enable them to stand firm in the midst of problems and storms that come through in the journey of life (Michael, Helfand).
Responsibility does not only mean that they (the youth) should exclusively learn to take good care of themselves by avoiding wrong friends, avoiding acts such as smoking, drinking, robbing, taking drugs or even choosing to drop out of school, but it’s also about ensuring that those around them are doing well and are in a good condition. Helping people is a part of life that the youth should learn and they can’t be able to practically learn this while they are still under the roofs of their parents. They may successfully learn to give (out of what their parents have given them) and not know how it means to give or take care of someone’s problem out of their hard earned money. The two situations are very different and letting them stay away from parents helps to mold such characters (of generosity, love, and endurance). All these narrows down to being responsible (Oprah, Winfrey).
Also, people between this age (18-25) need privacy. It is the age that most of the youth are developing their personality. A personality that is not what their parents made them to be. So in order to make complete self-discovery and being who they really are, they need to stay away from their parents so that they completely shade out their parent's choices about their lives, their parent's radical decisions that don't go well with what they wanted about their career and professional choices among many other factors. Therefore, staying with their parents would give them the ultimate privacy they require to make right and sober decisions concerning their lives and to straighten areas that their parent’s decisions damaged (Michael, Helfand). In as much as most parents feel that there is an urgency to monitor their children till the time they are completely independent, they should give them a benefit of the doubt because they also want the best for themselves and would not make stupid decisions that will shutter their destinies and future dreams. Close monitoring is a bad deal, but catching up with what they do from time to time in consistent intervals would help the parents keep them in line in case they go astray (thereby leading them in the right direction before it is too late) (Oprah, Winfrey).
It is at this same age that most people get to identify and chose their life partners, they would, therefore, have the need to stay out of the restricted parental environment in order to mingle and discover who they really want to be with. After that decision, they would organize and meet their parents for introductions. Some youth have stayed for so long without getting married and getting people they want to marry simply because they still stay at their parents’ house. No lady would want to have a serious relationship with a man who still sleeps in his mother’s couch or who still depends on his parents financially and with advice. This is the reason why most men who stay at their parents’ house even after they are thirty never settle down.
Contrary to the popular opinion that most teens who stay away from their parent's houses citing privacy as a reason are spoilt, and all they do is to womanize and abuse drugs, most teenagers/youth know what they want with their lives, and they want to be great entrepreneurs and start businesses that would shake the world. They want to start companies such as Facebook or work in great companies such as Google (who have very young interns and employees). However, not all youth are this way (focused and strategic), and most of them still need to be guided and offered parental advice(s), not necessarily with their biological parents, but also with people who are mature and experienced enough to be their parents (Stephanie, Postles).
Having grown children in the house could be so challenging. This means that they would be competing against their parents in issues that are not their concerns, they would begin to argue more with their parents in the name of reasoning out with them. They would begin to feel like running literally ...