Self-Concept - An Image Of Who You Are And A Collection Of Beliefs (Essay Sample)
It was a self-concept assignment. One was required to write an essay.source..
Self-concept - An Image of who you are, refers to a collection of beliefs about oneself and it stems from four sources
They include: Comparison with others, Image of you from other people, Cultural teachings, Self -Evaluation.
* Comparison with others
We are all raised in a society that teaches us to compare ourselves with others. Even parents can use that comparison to control the behavior of their kids. A good example would be my parents comparing my grades with those of my siblings, Beauty Queens in school being more pretty and popular compared to the other students, Peer groups formed based on those with better qualities and lastly the media shows us how we should look, think and be like – the Superstars and celebrities leading to people going for plastic surgeries just to have a nose like so and so, lips etc. Comparing myself with others can lead me to being blind to my own value dismissing the real worth I have on myself. The human connectedness can feel severed and we can be left alone. This can lead to self-exile because I would feel I am not worth and want to hide from people as much as possible. On the other hand, it could lead to superiority and contempt because I would feel better than other people hence I would not want to connect with someone beneath me. In the same way, the human connectedness can be lost and again, one is alone in his/her superiority. Comparison is a choice and can be unlearned once we realize that we hurt ourselves by doing so.
* Image of You from other People.
People tend to make assumptions about someone and these assumptions sometimes can be wrong or right depending on how well they know that person or the level of interaction. Some assumptions can be based on a past experience with that person, the age, Gender, what you look like and lastly what you wear. All those can be used to place judgment on someone. For example; if I have given off the impression– that am a bit aloof. Someone gets the impression that I am a distant and cold person and simply buying them a cup of coffee and smiling a little bit more is really not going to change that impression. Because one of the things we know about the brain is that it's very, very good at either ignoring or reinterpreting things in order to be consistent with what it already thinks is true. So one would think am buying that coffee because I want a